Sex is great fun, especially when both people are on the same page about what they enjoy and know what each other likes. Sometimes though, especially when you are only recently with your new partner, sex can get a little strange. Perhaps your new date has been reading a little too much of Fifty Shades of Grey or they start role playing and calling you things you just don’t expect. Don’t worry if this does happen, it’s not the end of the world and you know, you might enjoy the weirdness eventually.
Don’t Freak Out
Sometimes things do get a little strange in the bedroom but this is to be expected. Just because your partner start doing something different it doesn’t necessarily mean that they are strange or weird people. Of course, if your partner starts doing things that you are not comfortable with, don’t freak out.
The two of you sitting down and discussing what you both like in bed before you have sex again can often avoid these awkward times in bed, leading to much better sex in the long run. Some people like Fifty Shades of Grey style bondage and discipline whilst others prefer traditional sex. There’s nothing wrong with liking either of those and it’s always worth trying something once because you might just enjoy it and bear it in mind for the future. Freaking out can really ruin the dynamic of the relationship and ruin your partner’s self esteem in bed, making them nervous in the future. Have a talk about what you both want in bed and decide what to do about it. If you and your partner both have fantasies you wish to enact with each other, talking about them before enacting them is a much better way to go about it than just going for it one day.
If your partner is pressuring you in to doing something sexual that you don’t want to do, stop and talk about your issues on the subject and hopefully your partner will realize and stop being weird in the bedroom. If your partner continues pressuring you and trying to get you to do things you don’t want to do, perhaps it is time to break up. Relationships where one party is not happy never work in the long run and you don’t want to be in this kind of relationship.
Go With The Flow
For the more adventurous out there, you might find that the weird sex your partner likes is actually pretty interesting and you can go along with it to see whether you like it. The old motto is that you should try to do everything at least once and we think that it is right on the spot. In addition to learning a few new tricks you might find that your partner is much more open to trying your own fantasies than other people you have dated. Trying new things in bed is a great little adventure and you might regret it one day. Maybe your partner wants to try role playing and you want to try using some sex toys. In the right relationship, anything goes and most things are celebrated.
Let Things Get Weird In A Controlled Environment
Having sex in strange and new places is enjoyable when both partners are up for it. If your beau decides that it’s a great time to have sex and you are in the middle of a public park, perhaps remind him/her where you are and what you are doing there. Whilst you might both be voyeurs, it’s rather illegal to have sex in a public place so keep your passions contained to appropriate places. Having sex in a shop or anywhere that is non-standard is not something we recommend.
If both of you want to try out some new things go for it in the bedroom. It’s always fun to try new things and when you are both aware of what is going on, you can introduce things at your own pace and really enjoy where weird sex can take you.
When Positions Don’t Work
When you and your partner have been looking over the Internet or in books for interesting positions to try, make sure you don’t get it into your head that they wall have to work for you. If either partner is very tall or larger than average, quite a few sexual positions just won’t work for you and your partner so you won’t be able to get it on like that. Instead of being awkward and letting the whole thing get a bit weird, just laugh it off and find something that does work for you. Everyone is different and just because some book says you should try a certain sexual position, it doesn’t mean that both of you will enjoy it. If anything you try hurts in a negative way or could be dangerous if someone’s strength fails them, stop using that position immediately. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t try to be adventurous and try new things in bed though. Sometimes your body just won’t bend in the way that you see on the TV and you shouldn’t be worried or angry that it doesn’t work for you and your partner. Everyone is different and we should celebrate this fact. Weird things in bed are going to happen to you but and sometimes it’s going to be positions that just don’t work out the way how you saw them.
Everyone is nervous, especially in the beginning stages of a relationship where you are not a hundred percent sure about yourself and how your sexual prowess might live up to what your partner might have had before. Nerves get in the way of great sex and your fear could be the reason why thing seem weird in bed in the first place. Just try to relax and enjoy the intimacy and don’t worry too much about your nervousness. Remember, your partner is probably as nervous as you are even if they do not show it and together you can explore each other and figure out how to have some really good sex. Try not to fantasize anything where things might go wrong and you should be well on your way to stopping your nerves.
Sex really is great but can be ruined by any of the things we have mentioned above. When something bad happens in bed, take time to talk about it and laugh it off as if it didn’t. Go with the flow and try things because you never know what you are missing out on otherwise and it will make your partner happy when you enjoy the same things as they do. We think that sex should be free and interesting and if you don’t try ‘weird’ stuff on occasion, the passion could die out of your relationship and you could be left with a less than optimal relationship. Remember, when you try new things, if you don’t like them tell your partner and set up a safe word so they know when to stop. Good luck in exploring weird sexual things and we hope it’s great fun for everyone.